We mimic the behavior we’ve seen and perpetuate the behavior we’ve experienced.
|Members of Swayze's Sweethearts:|
Ronnye Boone, Deborah Carter,
and Megan Whitlow
How many times a day do you take unconscious action based on how your parents, “Cut the roast”? Do you drive American or foreign? Do you attend church? Volunteer? Yell or sulk when angry? Do you wear seat belts? Jewelry? Plaid? We spend a great deal of our lives, “Cutting the roast”.
When I wash dishes I utilize an order to the process. First washed are glasses, then silverware, then plates, and finally pots and pans. There’s a logic to the system - the water is cleanest at the beginning so you wash items from least dirty to dirtiest. It’s so ingrained I don’t even think about the process until I watch my husband wash dishes in his own way. Then… I have to consciously remind myself that the outcome is the important thing.
|Swayze's Sweethearts Women Build Team on Build Day|
Megan’s parents married young and their three children came along shortly. Megan’s family lived in an older home in Monroe, NC and only one of the rooms had insulation. During the heat of the North Carolina summer and cold of winter all five family members lived in that one room. Because the home was so old it exacerbated Megan’s sister’s asthma so she experienced a lot of breathing issues and all three children were often sick during the cold months.
Megan was seven when her family moved into their new Habitat home. She remembers hammering a few nails into the wall during construction. Megan recalls her excitement to have her own bedroom. Megan remembers the new, clean, smell and how she and her siblings were fascinated by the furnace closet. She recalls feeling the warmth and love from strangers who simply wanted to help.
|Team Leader Kristel Swayze and Megan|
One April evening as Megan helped teams of women work as one to raise Julie Clinkscale’s wall she looked over and saw five sets of children’s eyes watching. Five sets of eyes observed unknown adults setting foundations for their futures, constructing stability, creating possibilities. Megan’s eyes filled with joy and love because she KNEW what those little girls felt in that moment. Megan knows first hand what their new home will mean. And she felt overjoyed to play a role in their future success.
Megan has come full circle. Today she is a dedicated wife and a mother who has worked in the medical field. Stability is very important to Megan and she’s willing to sacrifice to provide it to her children. She’s also willing to work for Julie Clinkscale and her grandchildren. Megan once stood on a Habitat worksite and watched unknown helpers hammer and sweat. Now Megan feels blessed to help provide the hand up she is so grateful to have received so many years ago.